On this day, Wednesday, three weeks ago, we got Magpie (she’s pictured above), a Border Collie pup we call Maggie. Which raises an important question: what happened to Luna? Well, that’s a long and sad story. So here goes.
Luna, the lovely and incredibly sweet yearling Husky, had a great first few days in our house. But then she started to get increasingly antsy, wouldn’t sleep at all, and often paced, back and forth, from one end of our manse to the other. I tried to combat this problem the only way I know: by giving her huge amounts of exercise, as her breed often requires. Let’s stop here for a moment so that I can, preemptively, call myself a racist. That said, I’d take Luna for a five- or six-mile run and then return home, expecting her to lie down and nap. Instead, she’d begin pacing. And if I didn’t take her back outside pretty quickly, she’d start howling while she paced. It was unnerving and upsetting. But we dealt with it. Because we’re stoic.
Actually, the real reason we didn’t panic is because we have lots of experience with special-needs dogs and rescue dogs. It seemed possible, even likely, that Luna was having a hard time with the transition into our house, which also contains two active kids. In other words, the manse is not a sedate place. So I started to give Luna more exercise. But she only got more agitated. I should note, before I forget, that we never left her alone. She came with me to work every day. And she’d pace around my office, howling periodically, and generally exuding stress all over the place.
It was heartbreaking, especially so because our older boy really loved her. And why not? She was, as I said above, incredibly sweet. As long as she was outside.
Eventually, after a month, we called the vet and inquired about anti-depressants — for the dog, not for me, though the latter would have been fine, too. The vet said it wasn’t a good idea to drug her. So we called in a dog whisperer (DW), of which there are many in Davis. You’d have to know Davis to realize how unsurprising the surfeit of dog whisperers here really is. Anyway, DW came to our house. She whispered. And for three hours she conducted all manner of tests: crating Luna; tethering her in one place for a few minutes, both inside and out; taking her for a walk; leaving her alone in the house for a few minutes; and some others that I’m forgetting. After finishing her assessment, she said, and I’m quoting, “In my twenty years of doing this job, I’ve only suggested this two other times: get rid of this dog.”
DW was pretty sure that Luna, prior to arriving at our house, had never before been inside. She had lived on the streets, most likely, and couldn’t handle being in an enclosed space — even one as capacious as our manse. DW followed up by telling us that, “Keeping her will drive her insane. It’s torture for her to be inside.” This news, I have to say, was not what we had hoped to hear. The older boy had just dealt with Hannah’s death. And now we were about to tell him that his new dog, who, despite the pacing and howling, was always very sweet, might not be able to stay. Beyond our worries about what this would do to his state of mind, we were concerned about two other things: the lesson he might learn about giving up on another creature, and also our sense of obligation to a dog that we had agreed would join our family. We talked. We talked some more. We petted Luna. She paced. And howled.
Finally we decided, with Luna howling and pacing in the background, that we would talk to the rescue service where we got her, and see what they thought about the situation. Oddly, the boy handled this really well. He was convinced that Luna was suffering in our house. And so, he explained patiently, it was our responsibility to find a better place for her to live. It helped that the rescue service assured us that we were making the right decision. So that was that. Or so we thought at the time.
But there was more. The boy, as you might guess, wanted another dog. We explained to him that it would be best to wait until his younger brother, who’s just over a year old, got a bit bigger. And then, when the older boy wasn’t looking, my wife and I would surreptitiously check websites for every dog rescue in California. Because we’re crazy people. Seriously, we completely lost our minds at this point. One minute we’d say, “What are we doing? We really need to wait. This is folly.” And the next my wife would call me over to the computer and say, “What do you think of this one? S/he’s good with cats. And cute, right? We really need a dog, don’t we?”
For all of our inconsistency, we were sure of one thing: we wouldn’t consider a puppy. Because puppies are too much hassle; they’re like having another baby. Then, three weeks ago today, my wife called me at work and told me to go look at this website. There was a really cute dog there that sounded great. I looked. The “dog” was a puppy. I accused my wife of treachery. She accused me of heartlessness. I got in the car and drove to Chico, where the puppy was being fostered. And of course I brought her home with me. I mean, did you look at the picture above this post?
As with Luna, Maggie slept in my lap the whole way down from Chico. As with Luna, when we got home the kids and Maggie made a big pile of cute. But unlike Luna, Maggie never paces. She never howls. And she seems really happy in our house and at my office. If I take her for a long walk, she goes to sleep right afterward, often for hours. The older boy loves her like nothing he’s ever loved before. Watching them sprint up our block earlier today, tripping over each other, made me laugh out loud (lol?). And the baby doesn’t mind being a chew-toy as much as I would have guessed. Maggie comes with me to work almost every day. She even sometimes joins me when I teach. She curls up and sleeps on my bag while I natter on to the bored undergraduates. They appear to be less bored because she’s there.
All in all, this seems like a happy ending to what began as a sad story. I still think about Luna all the time. And yesterday, the older boy and I had a long discussion about Hannah. He started to cry while we talked. Then he slipped off the bed and found Maggie curled up nearby. She rolled onto her back for a belly rub. And he cuddled with her as he sobbed. My wife and I were right; we really do need a dog.
And yes, I know, this is a lousy “This Day In History.” Sorry about that. Having Maggie is a bit like having another toddler. Once she grows up a bit, and no longer wakes up twice every night to pee, I promise to begin posting more regularly again. In the meantime, I’ll leave you with this thought: Eric has a new puppy, too. Perhaps if you ask nicely, he’ll write “Blog Dog (part 2).” Or at least put up a picture.


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May 8, 2008 at 12:13 am
RobinMarie
Seriously, no one has commented here yet? Well I guess that makes me the biggest dog lover of the various lurkers here, at least for today.
Magpie is an adorable name, btw — and despite the annoyances of having a puppy, there is something very special about it in the long run. I mean, you will have *puppy pictures!* Having puppy pictures becomes no different than having baby pictures, as you end up showing them to your friends who didn’t know the dog back then and baby talking to the now-grown dog, “Remember how small and scared you were sweetheart? But Mummy promised to take care of you.”
Or maybe it’s just me who talks to my dog as if he were a child. Yeah. I think that’s just me.
Also — “Let’s stop here for a moment so that I can, preemptively, call myself a racist.” — Isn’t that a strange aspect of the dog lover world? Especially when watching dog shows, which I sometimes wonder whether, as sports can been seen as a healthy outlet for aggression and violence, stand in as a healthy outlet for racism and eugenic tendencies.
May 8, 2008 at 12:31 am
rja
Thanks. She’s very adorable and now I have puppy envy. Though, I’m also a complete sucker who generally reads with a grouchy, yet lovable, 12 year-old parrot on my shoulder.
May 8, 2008 at 12:53 am
ari
You’re a pirate, then, rja? Advertisers have been wondering if we’re reaching the crucial buccaneer demographic. We’ve assumed the answer is, “yes.” But your comment seems definitive.
And Robin, I think all pet people talk to their animals as though they’re kids. At least until the people have kids. Even then, sometimes.
May 8, 2008 at 1:07 am
Hemlock
Maggie looks like she’s full of life, wonder, and love. I bet people look forward to seeing her.
May 8, 2008 at 1:25 am
rja
You’re a pirate, then, rja? Advertisers have been wondering if we’re reaching the crucial buccaneer demographic.
as well you should be, given the critical role pirates play in the current global warming crisis.
also, there is not a lot of connectivity out here on the high seas and it’s hard to type coherently whilst being bitten from time to time by said parrot.
May 8, 2008 at 4:27 am
LizardBreath
I mean, you will have *puppy pictures!*
We have pictures of our spottyfaced part border collie sheepdog from when she was small enough to fit in a coat pocket, and we do show them to people exactly like that. Back then the spots were bigger compared to her face, so we called her Raccoon Girl.
Welcome to the sheepdog-owning blogosphere (Jim Henley’s got two as well.)
May 8, 2008 at 5:03 am
arbitrista
Wow, that’s really hard. It would break my heart to have to get rid of my dog. But I’m glad you found a good home for that adorable puppy. We’ve been thinking about getting one just like it.
May 8, 2008 at 6:29 am
asl
A sweet story. Damn, I love dogs.
May 8, 2008 at 7:01 am
charlieford
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJg7tJzDgnY
May 8, 2008 at 8:28 am
bitchphd
That is a dang cute puppy. And if Eric doesn’t post puppy pics, you win the blog.
May 8, 2008 at 8:32 am
Steve Balboni
You’ve got a great boy.
The pup looks cute and I hope karma is with you on this one. You all have certainly done a lot for the dogs in your life.
May 8, 2008 at 9:59 am
d
We had something of a similar situation with our Newfie, Greta, who became completely phobic of our house over the course of about six months — it got to the point where she was visibly afraid of every spot in the house except her mat in the bedroom. And even there she looked anxious, fearing perhaps that we were about to yank her into the middle of the room, where — I dunno — she’d be an easy mark for the carpet alligators or the puppy sniper who apparently lived in our bookshelves.
We got her on anti-depressants, but she didn’t really get better until we….erm…got a second dog to keep her company. Only we didn’t just get her another dog — we got her another Newfie. And that Newfie — while being an absolute godsend for Greta’s mental health — has required two TPLO surgeries costing about $5500 over the past 9 months.
I don’t know what the lesson here is — aside from the fact that dogs are expensive — but your new pup is pretty damn adorable.
May 8, 2008 at 11:31 am
Lisa Justice
Thanks for making my day, Ari.
May 8, 2008 at 11:32 am
Michael
I admire you and your family for taking on rescued dogs. In my life the dogs and cats have either just shown up or come from the pound. When we got married my new wife was not interested in having animals. After the death of one that I got from the pound, she realized how much the little furry had meant to her, so we got another dog. Then a cat showed up on our roof. I had to leave for another city the next morning for work. My wife did not like cats so she took the cat to the pound. When they told her that the cat would be killed the next day, she brought it home and we have not been without one for 35 years. It has always puzzled me why many people require better bloodlines in their animals than they do in themselves.
May 8, 2008 at 11:35 am
ari
Now I wonder if we should have kept Luna and gotten another dog. Or maybe you’re saying that we should have had $5,000 worth of surgeries done on Luna. Either way, thanks, d, for raising the spectre of doubt.
Also, Steve, yes, he’s a really good kid. But he doesn’t ever sleep, which is annoying.
And B, begin pressuring Eric. He’s hoarding all the puppy cuteness! We shouldn’t stand for this.
Even further upthread, charlie, that’s an awesome video. As always, thanks.
And LB, does your dog herd people? Maggie has been herding the stroller on longs walks, nippping at its wheels and whatnot. The beatings haven’t broken her of this habit; perhaps the shock collar I have on order will do the trick.
Finally, arbitrista, I recommend going the rescue route. But only if there’s a rescue as reputable as the one I’ve linked to in the post. They spend a huge amount of time screening their dogs, they seem more intent on finding good homes than finding any home at all for their dogs, and they’re willing to discuss the downsides of the breed. An excellent breeder is probably equally wonderful, though I don’t have much experience acquiring dogs that way.
May 8, 2008 at 11:38 am
bitchphd
does your dog herd people?
We had a collie growing up, and yes, she did. Borders are even smarter than collies. Get used to it.
May 8, 2008 at 11:39 am
bitchphd
Also, in re. dogs: does anyone have any suggestions for helping me talk my husband, who doesn’t really like dogs, into a standard poodle?
May 8, 2008 at 12:43 pm
Michael
b’phd, I don’t believe that there is anyway that you can reason with your husband to get him to change his mind about wanting a dog. I think that the dog itself has to do that. Perhaps you could tell him that you really want to get a dog and you will compromise by letting him be the one to pick it out. Unless you really want papers on the dog, perhaps you could get a rescued or unwanted one that is already house trained that would ease the strain of going out late at night or early in the morning for a puppy, and would reduce the problem of puppy “accidents.”
May 8, 2008 at 1:13 pm
teofilo
Herding people is just something border collies do.They’re very smart, but can also be very neurotic.
May 8, 2008 at 1:37 pm
Tyrone Slothrop
Border collies are very smart and really need a job to do. On the breed, I recommend a book called Dangerous Dogs, Eminent Men, by a fellow named Donald McCaig (I’m doubt I’m getting both names right, but close enough, I hope). He raises sheep in Virginia, and uses border collies to herd them. The book is about going to Scotland to find a new dog.
May 8, 2008 at 1:59 pm
Bureinato
Bitch, remind him that he didn’t particularly like cats before he lived with one.
May 8, 2008 at 2:16 pm
Megan
I would like to announce in a tone of extraordinary self-satisfaction that I have held Maggie on my lap. She is very soft.
I’ve had cats as a grown-up but am a firm believer that you need a dog to help raise young kids.
May 8, 2008 at 2:21 pm
ari
Teo, she doesn’t seem very neurotic, at least not yet. She is smart, though. Which means, Tyrone, that we’ve already designed jobs for her to do. Hasn’t stopped her from transferring title in the house to her name. Still, at least we keep her busy. And the house isn’t worth much; it’s mostly debt.
May 8, 2008 at 3:35 pm
L
Ari, if you keep writing dog stories I’m going to have to buy more tissues! Thanks for sharing.
May 8, 2008 at 3:44 pm
jms
That’s a very pretty pup. I’m glad things worked out, more or less.
May 8, 2008 at 5:19 pm
bitchphd
Bureinato, good point. (Also, hi! I didn’t know you read this blog!)
Of course, you just reminded me that Luna doesn’t particularly like dogs, so….
Re. Eric and puppy pictures, I have it on excellent authority that the *real* reason he won’t post them is because he doesn’t want his dog mixing with yours. Miscegenation, you know.
May 8, 2008 at 7:55 pm
charlieford
Eric’s forte is his bloomin’ garden.
May 8, 2008 at 8:29 pm
LizardBreath
DogBreath totally herds us, and nips heels like crazy — border collies (she’s part, the rest is Australian Shepherd) are very mouthy. You sound like a more competent dog-trainer than we were, but if I were going to give advice (oh, look, I am), I’d be really focused on shutting down any nippiness. The trick, if you don’t know it which you probably do, is any time the puppy touches you, no matter how gently, with a tooth, you yelp as if she’s killed you and stalk off, hurt and refusing to play. She’ll learn that no biting ever is okay.
Buck thought puppy biting was the cutest thing ever, and would playfight with DogBreath when she was little. And now she still nips a lot — she’s never bitten anyone to break the skin, but she’ll snap and nip, either playfully or to communicate irritation. It was kind of embarrassing when the kids’ friends were littler: I was always dreading having to explain “Yeah, my dog bit your toddler, but not hard. Look, he’s not bleeding, just scared!” Which meant a lot of making sure there wasn’t ever someone else’s kid near the dog. Now that they’re all bigger, I don’t worry so much.
May 8, 2008 at 8:48 pm
ari
The trick, if you don’t know it which you probably do, is any time the puppy touches you, no matter how gently, with a tooth, you yelp as if she’s killed you and stalk off, hurt and refusing to play. She’ll learn that no biting ever is okay.
Ooh, this is really good. We were told that sticking a finger down the pup’s throat if she nipped was the key. But because she’s so social, she’d be much more likely to learn from your method. Plus: guilt! So Jewish.
May 8, 2008 at 9:25 pm
Gene O'Grady
On the husband/poodle issue, I can honestly say that the poodle (”poodle mix,” in vetspeak) that joined our family sixteen years ago last March at the urging of wife and daughter and over my serious reservations has probably been the decision I least regret in 34 years of marriage.
By the way, before she got old she used to herd people. Which is why we originally thought she was a Portuguese Water Dog, a dog bred to herd fish.
May 8, 2008 at 9:27 pm
ari
a Portuguese Water Dog, a dog bred to herd fish
Really? I always wondered about that. I assumed they were hunting dogs that could swim. But yours makes more sense, as Labs are already hunting dogs that can swim.
May 8, 2008 at 9:35 pm
bitchphd
PK’s teacher was recommending a portuguese water dog to me earlier today! I think he didn’t quite get that the point of the poodle was that Mr. B. is allergic. (Also bigoted against dogs.)
May 8, 2008 at 9:36 pm
bitchphd
Poodles are water retrievers though, too, I’m pretty sure. Plus there’s a poodle rescue right here in Ventura county.
May 8, 2008 at 9:54 pm
ari
How allergic is he?
May 9, 2008 at 7:31 am
learnlotsbetty
I don’t know if I should thank you or “thank you” Ari. I submitted my application to the greyhound rescue after reading this.
May 9, 2008 at 7:54 am
ari
Rescued greyhounds, assuming they’re screened well (as is the case with any rescue dog), are simply delightful: quiet, sweet, and ever so grateful for a loving home. Plus, they have apricot ears: soft and squinchy. Delightful.
May 9, 2008 at 7:58 am
bitchphd
I dunno. He’s never had a dog in his life. He’s allergic to the cat; if she rubs his face he has to go wash it immediately, and even so ends up with red skin and puffy eyes.
May 9, 2008 at 8:54 am
dware
Ms. B.,
Poodles are relatively free of dander, which is probably what triggers Mr. B’s allergies in proximity to cats of the four-pawed persuasion. i don’t know about Portuguese Water Dogs and dander, but i do know that one down the street from us is one of the most stubborn and under-worked (as in it needs to go swimming…a lot) dogs I’ve ever met.
Another low-allergen possibility: wire-haired terriers, from the dinky (Wire Fox, Lakeland) to the dreadnoughts (Airedale). Cats make me mizzuble but terriers don’t affect me the same way…which is part of why we have had a succession of Airedales in our house over the past two decades. Anyway, any dog good enough for Warren Harding….On the (sort of) downside, they tend to be “eccentric”–loud, hard-headed and think that they’re smarter than their owners. In the case of harding’s dog, this was a distinct possibility.
Thanks for Magpie’s and Luna’s stories, Ari.
May 9, 2008 at 9:46 am
BPL
I’m glad Mojo has the cutest canine friend in the entire world!! She’s beautiful.
May 9, 2008 at 9:58 am
ari
Thanks, BPL. If you’d like a picture of the two of them grooming each other, just let me know. The little man is delighted with his friend, by the way. And vice versa.
May 9, 2008 at 10:25 am
BPL
I’ll take some pictures. Thanks!!
May 9, 2008 at 10:40 am
ari
Will send after the weekend. We’re going to the coast for Mother’s Day.
May 9, 2008 at 1:22 pm
JeffR
Another vote for standard poodles from a formerly very reluctant husband.
I was maybe an easier sell on it than Mr. B, because I’ve always loved dogs. But we’d had to get rid of a cat because of my allergy to it. We both loved the cat, and I really didn’t want to go through that again.
But my wife really wanted a dog. So she colluded with my Mom to break down my defenses, and we ended up getting a rescue standard poodle. And of course we both loved her dearly. Bijou was with us almost five years, then died of congestive heart failure at eight years old. I thought I’d want time before we got another, but found I just couldn’t wait, and we got Toby as a puppy soon after.
Poodles do give people allergic reactions, although not as much as a dog that sheds. Thankfully, my dog allergy seems mild enough that I can ignore it. I do notice a minor reaction, but having Toby around is so worth it. My Dad’s wife, though, who would love to have a dog, can’t be near even a poodle without having a very bad reaction. So your mileage may vary.
The only way to know if Mr. B would react is to have him spend time with a poodle (or terrier). And if he like dogs in the first place, that might be hard.
Oh, and Maggie looks like a sweetie!